What to say to someone who didn’t get a scholarship
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou
Rejection is not a soothing experience. This is a phase where you question yourself, your capacity and strength.
Getting a scholarship rejection could be devastating, in time like this; a comforting atmosphere is needed. Below are few tips to help scholarship applicants during this period:
- Remind them that it’s not personal: In the end, getting a scholarship is largely a matter of grace. Remind your friend, sibling, or child that it is possible for a student to meet all of the quantitative requirements of the college’s statistics and still not be accepted. Remind them that it has nothing to do with their character or level of effort; it is simply the result of how the numbers came out.
- Tell them how proud you are of their hard work: Be sure to express your pride in all of the effort they put into their academics and scholarship applications once more. But more importantly, express your pride in them as individuals. Keep emphasizing how proud they should be of themselves as well as how proud they are of you
- Distract Them: It’s time to leave the house and do something enjoyable after you’ve allowed them to cry and dried their tears. If you want to distract them from thinking about scholarship applications, suggest taking them to a movie or their preferred restaurant. This will help them to breathe and get refreshed.
- Get them excited about other options: Remind them of all the other fantastic scholarships to which they applied and would be lucky to have them since it is now time to formally move on. Begin researching their other potential scholarship options and get them fired up about all the exciting people they will meet and classes they can enroll in at these other universities. In a short while, there will only be a dim memory of failed scholarship applications.
- Remind them that the pain will pass: Remind them that even though it feels like the world is ending to them (and you may start to worry that they won’t ever get over it), the pain of getting rejected from a scholarship will pass. There are countless scholarships, so they will undoubtedly find another one that they enjoy just as much. Remind them that with time, they won’t even recall all the rejections again.